Loraine Hutchins Introduces ABilly S. Jones-Hennin
ABilly S. Jones-Hennin: “If Loving You Is Wrong, Then I Don't Want Wanna Be Right”
My fellow bisexuals...
I stand before you as an unapologetic, outspoken, bisexual activist who has intimately loved women, men and transgender persons throughout my life span of 72 years; And in the words of a popular and soulful rhythm and blues song from the sixties and seventies by Luther Ingram and Rod Stewart,
“If loving you is wrong,
Then I don't wanna to be right!”
I stand before you acknowledging that I have been
- in consenting poly relationships,
- marriage to a heterosexual woman,
- and for the last 36 years, in a committed, loving and open Same Gender Loving (SGL) Relationship with a bisexual man who I will be marrying in a few weeks.
Then I Don't Wanna BE Right or DO Right!
Coming to Minneapolis is always a HOMECOMING because it is the city that inspired me to acknowledge publicly
- that I am bisexual;
- that I am queer;
- that I have the capacity and the desire to love men as well as women as well as transgender persons.
One key message I would like to convey to you today is that
COMING OUT IS A LIFTIME AND ONGOING ADVENTURE
Every day, and often many times a day, one may find yourself gently or forcefully coming out to someone or someones.
Just on the plane coming here, minding my own business and trying to take a nap, my seat mate asked me if I lived in Minneapolis.
My short answer was, “No.” Now I could have shut up, but I informed my seat-mate that I was going to a conference. And that response led to, “What conference?” I paused and thought to myself, how far do I want to take this. So to speed things up, I informed him that I was speaking at a bisexual conference.
And guess what, he wanted to know more so that he could let his daughter know about the conference; so we talked throughout the entire trip – me talking and sharing about me; he talking and sharing about him and his daughter.
He shared that his daughter had been married to a man; then announced that she was a lesbian and in a relationship with a woman; and is now again in a relationship with a man. Poor Dad was confused and I am not sure my story helped so I suggested that HE come to this conference – if not this year, next year.
Like some of you here today (hopefully not too many), early in my life I identified as straight – in part because being heterosexual was all I knew; in part because in the forties and fifties when I was growing up, there were more likely to be hand signals to describe sexual minorities than words like bisexuals, lesbians, gays, and transgender persons.